Filed Under (Before You Date) by Guest Author on 31-08-2010
By Dr. Raymond Comeau
“A man who is master of himself can end a sorrow as easily as he can invent a pleasure. I don’t want to be at the mercy of my emotions. I want to use them, to enjoy them, and to dominate them.” – Oscar Wilde
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We are both our greatest friend and worst enemy. We are the creator of most of our joys and the source of most our pains. We are the first to auto-criticize and believe that we are near paragons of virtue. We don’t like to be left in our own company yet secretly believe that we are one of the most interesting person that we know.
In one word, we are walking talking paradoxes. We can’t see the incongruity of our personal beliefs, especially the beliefs that we have about ourselves. We believe that we know who we are yet we are constantly in search of our identity. All that is what makes it so difficult to accept and love ourselves.
Self-acceptance and self-love has been called the ultimate seduction. So called because it is the hardest and most difficult of all seductions. How can a best friend who also happens to be the worst enemy can ever find acceptance and love? Read the rest of this entry »
Filed Under (Before You Date) by Shana on 19-08-2010
“Every person, all the events of your life are there because you have drawn them there. What you choose to do with them is up to you.”
-Richard Bach
How do you know if you’re ready for a relationship? Being ready to date is not the same things as being ready for a serious relationship. But since dating can lead to finding someone special you need to think about how ready you are for that commitment.
Here are 5 signs that show you may need to wait before you begin a new relationship:
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Filed Under (Before You Date) by Guest Author on 13-08-2010
By Louise Kaelin
For most of us, when we think of finding love, we think of finding a person who will love us, and then we plan to love them back. Unfortunately, in real life it seldom works that way. This is partly because neither party is willing to risk rejection, so no one is willing to be the first to send out love.
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There is a way around this, however. The best way to attract love into your life is for you to become more lovable! This advice works well whether you are looking to improve an existing relationship, including with family members, or seeking to become involved in a loving, committed relationship.
Here are ideas for you to become more lovable. Read the rest of this entry »
Filed Under (Before You Date) by Guest Author on 10-08-2010
By Elliot Zovighian
Sometimes we often contemplate life from every angle. We weigh the pros and cons of every endeavor, every relationship to ensure we don’t take one false step. Unfortunately most of the time they do not protect us from mistakes, nor do they protect us from the very things we are looking to avoid.
Over analyzing life is the major cause of procrastination, and insidious thought. The more you think, the more you conjure up thoughts of how the world is out to get you or that you aren’t capable of attaining whatever goals you desire. We sabotage ourselves. Others don’t sabotage us unless we let them. But more often we do it to ourselves. Over and over until it becomes apart of our psyche and we have to self reprogram our minds into a healthy disposition.
We must rid our thoughts of self defeating feelings and self loathing. Whether you feel you’re not good enough to date a particular person, or that you’re unqualified for a particular job, you are entitled to anything you want just as anyone else is. No one can make you believe it but you. Just as one obsesses about how they aren’t capable, one can choose to think that they are. It’s the choices they make that determine the happiness of their life. Not circumstances. Read the rest of this entry »
Filed Under (Dating) by Shana on 18-02-2010
If you’re like most single women you’re on a quest to find Mr. Right. That seemingly elusive man who’s perfect for you. One obstacle to finding Mr. Right is the idea of Mr. Perfect.
So who is Mr. Perfect? He’s the image of the perfect man for you that you carry in your mind. Perfect height, perfect looks, the right income, career and personality. Everything that you want a man to be. But the problem with Mr. Perfect is that in the real world he probably doesn’t exist. No one’s perfect, some people can pretend to be, but in the long run we find that everybody has their faults. So in order to find your Mr. Right you need to get rid of the idea of Mr.Perfect and focus on the qualities and traits that are really important to you. When you do that you may find that Mr. Right is already in your life.
One way to get rid of Mr. Perfect is to narrow down your deal-breaker list to the things that are really important to you. If you met your Mr. Right and he was 2 inches shorter Read the rest of this entry »
