Improve Your Relationship By Knowing What Men Need

By Shoshana Jackson

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Do you know what men need in a relationship?

Most women don’t. You probably realize that men and women think differently. If you’ve read the book Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus by John Gray you know not only do men think differently, they also have distinctly different needs when it comes to relationships and love.

There are three things most men need in a relationship: admiration, acknowledgement and appreciation.  While you may feel these things for the man in your life, you may not be expressing it in the way he needs it.

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The key to a successful relationship is to makes sure that each of you has your needs met in the way you need them met. For some that may include physical contact, some need to hear it and some need to see it. Here are some things that men need and how you can show your man how much you love him.

1. Men Need Acknowledgement For The Things He Does In Your Relationship.

Your man may not always get it right.  There may be times when he seems to be completely clueless when it comes to your relationship. Each man has his own way of showing how much he cares.

While one man may shower you with hugs and kisses, another may show love by doing things around the house. In both cases he’s trying to meet your relationship needs and make you happy. Men need to know they can satisfy the needs of the woman they’re with.

Unfortunately, sometimes your man does not understand what you need in your relationship. Instead of criticizing or ignoring his efforts, take the time to acknowledge that he’s trying. If you ignore his attempts to please him, you’re just telling him that he can’t please you and in time he’ll give up trying.

What Do Men Need: Ask Yourself:

  • Do I let him know what I want in our relationship?
  • Do I acknowledge the things he does to improve the relationship?
  • Do I notice and acknowledge his efforts, when he’s trying to make me happy?

Some men need guidance when it comes to your needs.  If you need more physical attention, let him know. If you’d like to go out more, let him know. And when he does the things you ask, don’t take it for granted, acknowledge what he’s done, let him know that he can make you happy and is capable of meeting your needs. This will make him want to do more for you.

2. Men Need to Know They’re Appreciated For What They Do.

Acknowledgement and appreciation go hand in hand. While acknowledgement lets him know you see what he does. Appreciation can be as simple as thanking him for something he’s done. Many men crave appreciation. Appreciation is a great way to let him know you like what he’s doing.

While men need appreciation, it needs to be genuine. If you’re able to show genuine appreciation for what he does for you, in the end he’ll probably want to do more. So when he sit’s up with you when you’re sick, picks up the kids when you’re running late or cooks dinner so you can get some rest, let him know how much it means to you. This will also let him know how much he means to you.

What Do Men Need: Ask Yourself:

  • Do I take my relationship for granted? Do we take each other for granted?
  • Do I appreciate the little things he does for me?
  • Am I willing to take the time to notice when he does things for me “just because.”

It’s easy to take the little things for granted in a relationship. He may take things you do for granted. The things people do every day may not seem like a big deal, but it is a person’s way of showing they care. If either of you is not getting appreciation for the things you do, eventually it will lead to resentment and problems in your relationship. That’s why it’s important to lead the way and show how to be thankful for both the little and the big things.

3. Men Need Admiration For Their Achievements.

In the fast paced world we live in some people never receive any admiration for their achievements. Great things may happen at work, at home, at school or just in everyday life and nobody knows about it. Many times it’s not because the person is hiding this information, but because they feel that nobody wants to hear it.

It only takes a few incidents of being ignored for a man to stop sharing in a relationship. Some women may wonder why their man doesn’t tell them anything. If you’ve ever ignored what he was saying so they could watch their favorite show or finish talking to a friend online, this may be the reason. Over time these actions will send a message, you’re not really interested.

Take the time to listen to what he has to say. He may have gotten a promotion, got a great deal on your car repair or finished a project he’s been working on for a while. Men need to know that someone cares about the things they do.

What Do Men Need: Ask Yourself:

  • Do I help him celebrate his achievements?
  • Do I allow him time to talk about the things that happen in his life, when he’s ready, not when I’m ready?
  • Do I  celebrate his achievements even when I don’t really understand them?

If your man feels that he’s accomplished something, he wants you to be proud of what he’s done. You don’t always have to agree. There are some times when you may not be able to appreciate what he’s done, but at least you can acknowledge his effort.

Men need different things, but these are three things most men need.

Knowing what your man needs can improve your relationship. What’s great about meeting his needs is that often it will help you get your needs met. As you acknowledge, appreciate and admire his actions, you’ll be showing him how to satisfy your needs in the relationship.

The most important thing to remember is that men need honesty. It’s better to be honest about how you feel. You can acknowledge, appreciate and admire while not agreeing with something he’s done. Don’t lie to make him feel good. A simple honest “thank you” will go much further than a boatload of false praise.

How do you show appreciation, acknowledgement and acceptance? Have you discovered to other things men need in a relationship? Share your thoughts.

 

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