How Do You Know You’re Ready For a Relationship
Five Signs You Should Wait Before You Date
By Shoshana Jackson
You’re over your break up, and now you’re ready to date. How do you know you’re ready to date?
Many times people think that after a certain amount of time you should start dating again. There may be pressure from friends and family. You may feel lonely and want to have someone in your life again.
Being ready to date is not the same things as being ready for a relationship. If you will be dating in the hopes of having a serious relationship, there are some things you need to consider.
How do you know you’re ready for a relationship, look for these signs:
1. Do you enjoy your life, without a relationship
A relationship will bring a certain amount of joy into your life, but it should not be your only source of happiness. You should be enjoying life whether you’re single or in a relationship.
Do I think I need to be in a relationship to be happy?
Do I have activities, interests or hobbies that I enjoy?
Do I have friends and family that I’m close to, that I like to spend time with?
When people enter a relationship and don’t have outside interests and friendships, they can easily become needy and clingy. That’s why it’s important to do things that you enjoy, now. Don’t wait until you’re dating, start having fun before you meet someone.
2. Do you feel good about yourself
After a break up many women’s self-esteem and self-confidence hit an all time low. These feelings can make a woman doubt her ability to attract a good man and have a successful relationship.
Do I think there’s something wrong with me, because I keep attracting the wrong men?
Do I think I’m attractive enough to attract the right men in my life?
Do I settle for the wrong men because I don’t think I can do better?
You need to love yourself before you can find love with someone else. If you think you’re not good enough for the right men, you’ll always make bad decisions when it comes to who you date. Learn to love yourself as you are now. You can make changes, but accept and love who you are at this very minute. If you don’t love yourself, you’ll always attract the wrong men.
3. Have you gotten over your ex
When you have a relationship that ends, you can still have an emotional attachment to your ex. These feelings don’t go away because you’re not together, or even when you’re dating someone new.
Do I find myself constantly thinking about my ex and the past relationship?
Do I constantly talk about my ex with friends and family, either negatively or positively?
Do I compare the men that I meet to my ex, either negatively or positively?
Do I secretly wish we were back together? Am I really just trying to win him back?
It’s only natural to have some feelings for your ex, especially if you were a close couple or if you were together for a long time. In order for you to have a healthy new relationship you need to let go of your past relationships. If you don’t you’ll stay stuck in the past and you’ll bring the baggage from your old relationships into your new ones.
4. Do I understand my bad dating patterns
Have you noticed the men or relationship you have share certain similarities. With each person we date we follow a certain dating pattern. With each date this pattern is further ingrained into our psyche. We start to believe that this is the way things are supposed to be, even if they don’t work.
Does it seem like all of the men that I date have the same issues?
Does it seem like all of my relationship have the same issues or problems?
Do I or people close to me, notice a pattern in the type of men that I date?
Breaking bad dating patterns can often be the key to finding a healthy relationship with the right man. However before you can break the pattern you need to recognize what those patterns are. When you see those patterns while you’re dating you’ll be better able to stop yourself from making the same mistakes.
5. Are you ready to wait to find the right relationship
Chances are you won’t start dating today and find the love of your life tomorrow. Yet, that’s what some women want. Before you start dating you need to realize that this is a process, especially if you want to find the right man.
Do you need to be in a relationship right now?
Are you ready to take time to find the man that’s right for you?
Do you have some kind of time limit that you place on relationships?
The right man isn’t going to fall in your lap, you have to get out there and find him. When you find him, you can’t force him to commit. Your relationship will grow and evolve over time. Since each relationship is different it’s hard to say how long it will take before you have the commitment you want.
You’re ready for a relationship?
Is it possible to have a healthy relationship if you see these signs.
Anything’s possible, but would you want to risk it.
Take the time to discover who you are and what you want before you start looking for a relationship. This is offer you the best chance at success when you meet the man you want to commit to and who wants to commit to you.
Yes, it may take some time, but isn’t the time you spend working on building a strong personal foundation for your relationship worth it. After all, in the end the time you spend now can give you a relationship that lasts a lifetime.
You’re ready for a relationship? How do you find the right man? How do you get that man to connect and commit to you? There are many women who understand what is needed to find and keep the right man. You can to by learning the secret to building and having a healthy relationship.
photo credit: Kara Allyson