Dealmakers – The Importance of Common Interests

Common interests and dealmakers are important in a new relationship

By Shana Jackson

Something often overlooked in dating and in budding relationships is the importance of common interests. While many women go into dating with a list of dealmakers and dealbreakers, how important is that list when you’re actually sitting across from a man you think you’re interested in. When attraction, infatuation or just plain lust takes over, it’s easy to believe that something like sharing interests is important.

When the initial attraction wears off and you find that you’re dating a man obsessed with sports and would rather sit at home watching the game then go out, and that’s not your idea of fun, you realize how important it is to know the interests of a potential mate. While having a sports obsessed boyfriend is not a problem that can’t be overcome, but if you find that you have few things or nothing in common, this may be an issue.

If you’re guy loves sailing and goes out on his boat regularly, but you get sea sick just looking at water, would you expect him to sell his boat and stop sailing. That’s a lot to ask someone especially if you haven’t been together long. But if you have other common interests, it would make it easier to build a relationship based on the fun interests you share. This common interest can be something that helps you bond together as a couple.

Knowing what interests are important to you will make finding the man of your dreams much easier. Make a list of 5 dealmakers. Make sure these are your current interests, things that you enjoy doing regularly. Then you need to start looking for men.

If you go to places where people who share your interests hang out, you’re bound to meet new people. In many cases some of those people will be men who may be interested in meeting you. This is a great way to get to know men and make a connection based on your shared interest, your dealmakers .

There are also many dating sites that are based on common interests. This can be religious, activities, hobbies or lifestyle. But you don’t need to join a new website if you’re willing to take the time to read the profiles on an online dating site you’re on. Many dating profiles contain a dater’s interests. Also by listing your interests on your profile, you’ll also be able to attract men who share your interests.

If you decide that interests that you have are dealmakers, and then take the time to seek out men who have that common interest. It’s worth taking the extra time and effort to find a man that’s perfect for you.

Wishing you success in life and love,

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Author: Shoshana Jackson (76 Posts)

Shoshana Jackson is a freelance writer and life coach. While she writes and coaches on various topics her primary focus is on dating and relationship advice for women. For information on coaching services or to ask a question feel free to send her an email or contact her on Facebook, Twitter or Skype using the links below.