Learn the Difference Between a Bad Boy and a Good Guy
Editor’s Comments: What is is about bad boys that make them so attractive. I know in my life I’ve dating my fair share of bad boys. A bad boy isn’t a bad person to date. However when I was looking for a long-term relationship, a bad boy was usually the wrong choice.
Since I’m no longer looking for long-term, there’s no problem with me dating a bad boy. In fact in many ways we’re on the same page. Neither of us is looking for a commitment. There’s also no reason for me not to date a good guy. I’ve come to realize there are benefits to dating both types of men. I also know that it’s important to be able to tell the difference. This article will help you learn the difference between a bad boy and a good guy.
In the old cowboy westerns, it was easy to tell the good guys from the bad guys. The good guys wore white hats and their smile seemed to sparkle just a bit more than average.
Unfortunately in the dating world, you don’t know right away who is really a good guy and who is a bad boy.
By the time you find out, you may have experienced a lot of misery and disappointment. Movies and television glorify the Bad Boy as a misunderstood man with a kind heart, even though it’s not evident.
The Good Guy is portrayed as virtuous and stable in ways that suggest these qualities are dull. So which is better? What do they have to offer? The Good Guy is honest and trustworthy – he’s a man of his word to you and to everyone else.
If he says he’s been called back to work for a second shift, then he really is working – you don’t have to wonder. The Good Guy is focused on you – he cares about what brings you joy, even if it means taking you to the newest chick flick when his favorite superhero is on the screen next door.
He appreciates the cookies you baked, eating every crumb – even the burned parts! He brings flowers for no reason and never forgets your birthday. He plans wonderful dates and trips, but never on the spur of the moment. He’s dependable and prompt.
The Bad Boy is selfish and greedy, yet he manages to make such elaborate excuses that you overlook his immaturity. If he says he’s called back to work for a second shift, you never know if it’s to work at the office or a late date with another woman.
He manages to redefine the world in ways that work for him. The Bad Boy is focused on doing for you just as little as possible to soften you up to get what he wants. If he brings flowers, it’s because he heard someone mention that it’s Valentines and he stole the roses from a cemetery on the way to your house.
He’s always spur of the moment with grandiose ideas that are crazy, fun and totally unpredictable. He’s not dependable and runs on his own time. Based on what values you consider important in a relationship, you might go for the Bad Boy or the Good Guy.
Maybe you’ve tried them both. Some women feel that the Bad Boy is more exciting and adventurous. Other women find comfort and security in the Good Guy’s honesty and genuine caring.
Good Guys certainly make better husbands than Bad Boys, unless you enjoy a lifetime of unpredictability. There are women who will argue for both. The question is, do you want one kind of man to play around with and another to marry? If that’s the case, then you have to be honest with yourself about just how long you expect your fling to last before you get serious in looking for a potential husband.
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A bad boy to me is someone who is tough on the oudsite but warm on the inside. He could have done some bad things in the past but realizes he’s made some mistakes. I don’t like the jerky type with a condescending tone.I dated a bad boy when I was younger. Good thing he dumped me. lol It was the best thing that could have happened. I then met up with my husband and we’ve been married for 21 years. I’d do it all over again in a heartbeat. He’s the best!
“The Good Guy is portrayed as virtuous and stable in ways that suggest these qualities are dull.” I completely disagree with this. Why don’t women get it that the “good guys” can also have bad boy sides/tendencies to them? I consider myself a good guy (definitely stable) but at the same time I have bad boy tendencies i.e. (smoking in the boys room), putting tacks on your teachers seat to sit on, blowing up your high school best friends parents toilet with M-80′s (when they were still legal) blah blah blah.
“He appreciates the cookies you baked, eating every crumb – even the burned parts! He brings flowers for no reason and never forgets your birthday. He plans wonderful dates and trips, but never on the spur of the moment.”
Ok some of this is BS and only the sappy kiss your a**, kiss your feet guys are like eating every crumb even the burned parts and never on the spur of the moment crap. These guys are the total cheesy guys, the ones that never like to get into arguments, never likes disagreements. The never forgets your birthday that one can go both ways, even the good guys could have sh*tty memories and not remember your b-day. The spur of the moment is totally fun to do. It’s good to get into arguments and have disagreements cause you figure out obviously what each likes, dislikes and just plain sucks to agree on everything.
I believe every woman has their own definition of a good guy and a bad boy. That being said I believe most good guys have some bad boy habits. It’s up to each woman to decide if she’s willing to put up with them.
The woman who wrote the article obviously believes that the things she listed are important. They’re all examples of a way for a man to show that he appreciates the woman he’s with. I’m sure she’s not saying you should serve burnt cookies on a regular basis to test your man’s love or dump a guy who doesn’t pre-plan dates.
Most women don’t want a man to kiss their a**, but we do want to be respected and appreciated, the same as a man does in a relationship. We know even the best guy can have bouts of forgetfulness, however they usually try to make up for those lapses in memory. Disagreements will happen, but in the end a good guy will work with you to resolve the problem. That’s what I feel is a major difference between the good and bad guys.
As you can see I agree with the general idea of your comment. There are no perfect “good guys” who never make mistakes and if women are looking for one, they’re bound to be disappointed. Thanks for the comment, it’s always nice to hear a man’s perspective.