5 Questions to Ask Yourself Before You Find Your Soulmate

By Shoshana Jackson

Find Your Soulmate, She was ready to meet him

Are you ready to meet your soulmate?

Before you ask how to find your soulmate you need to ask yourself “Am I ready to meet him?” What type of woman would your soulmate be looking for?

Have you let go of your past relationships and emotional baggage? Are you open and excited about the possibilities and opportunities available in your life?

Are you willing to make changes to attract this man to you? Are you living the life that will bring people with the qualities you desire into your life? Are you open and available to love someone?

When you ask yourself “How can I find my soul mate?” do you have a certain type of man in mind? Just like you have certain qualities that you  would like to have in your soul mate, he also has things he’s looking for.

The most painful thing that can happen is if the man you believe is your soul mate doesn’t think you’re his type.

He may like you, you may even enjoy spending time together, but he may not feel you’re the right person for him to be in a relationship with.

Remember just like your soul mate should be the person who’s right for you, you need to be the right woman for him. If you’re looking for a man who is healthy and fit, it’s likely he’s looking for the same thing.

So, if you say you want to find your soulmate and he’s that type of man and you’re, which is something important to him, you’ve got some work to do.

You may decide that you don’t want to change, then you need to adjust your thinking about the type of man you’re looking for.

It’s important that you and your partner share the same values and if one of his is a healthy lifestyle and you’re a junk food addicted couch potato, sooner or later this will lead to problems.

So, what do you need to ask yourself before you say you want to find your soulmate.

Here are 5 questions for you to think about to be sure you’re ready when you meet him.

You want to find your soulmate, but do you know what you’re looking for in a soul mate?

It’s so easy to get bogged down by a laundry list of dealbreakers and dealmakers. However, if you thought hard about this list, you’ll find most of these items aren’t really that important. This is a major cause of disappointment, especially when you’re looking for a very specific set of characteristics, such as a certain height, or career or income.

Don’t try to find perfection. People have flaws and imperfections, decide which ones are acceptable. Instead of looking at a man’s looks for your dealmaker and dealbreaker list, start making a list of the most important qualities and values. That’s where you’ll find love.

To Find Your Soulmate Ask Yourself:

  • What are my dealmakers and dealmakers?
  • Can I cut each of my lists down to the five most important items?
  • Am I willing to forgo a long list or needs and wants if it means I have a better chance of meeting my soulmate?

Do you know what qualities your soul mate would be looking for?

What characteristics do you think he would want in a woman? How would you attract him? What about you would draw his interest? Do you possess the qualities that he would want? Are you willing to make changes to become that woman? Is that type of woman who you want to be?

You don’t want to try to change who you are for anyone. You’ll just end up miserable. But if there is something that you’ve wanted to work on, go for it. Maybe you’ve wanted to change your look, drop a few pounds or change careers. Start doing things that will make your life better, and if they happen to help you attract your soul mate all the better.

To Find Your Soulmate Ask Yourself:

  • What 5 changes do I need to make in my life?
  • Am I willing to take the time and effort to make these changes?
  • Are these changes important to me and not what I think other people want me to do?

What qualities do you have that would attract your soulmate?

Who are you? This is a simple question to ask, but not a simple one to answer. So often we become the labels and roles society sticks us with, mother, sister, daughter or friend. But you really need to discover who you are and what makes you special. These unique qualities are what will attract your soul mate.

This can be difficult for some people and no matter how deep the dig, they can’t find anything they love about themsleves. If this is you, start asking the people who know you, your friends and family. Ask them what makes you special? Remember praise you’ve received the past, what compliments have people paid to you? Do you have any special skills or talents?

To Find Your Soulmate Ask Yourself:

  • Do I love myself? Do I feel worthy of the love from people already in my life?
  • Can I make a list of things that make me special, things that I like about myself?
  • What can I do, that will make me feel good? What activities do I love? 

Before you find your soulmate, ask yourself, do you know you’re ready for a relationship?

Most people enter into a new relationship with at least a small amount of emotional baggage from their old relationships. The more emotional baggage, the harder it is to find happiness with your new love.

If you just went through a break up or divorce, you’re definitely not ready for a new relationship. The same can be said of someone who has gone  through a break up or divorce  years before yet never let go and moved on.

To be ready for your soul mate you need to let go of the past. Let go of the anger and fear and all of the emotions that are wrapped around your old relationships.

Releasing yourself from these feelings will allow you to grow as a woman. When the emotional baggage is gone you are open and ready to share yourself and your love with someone new.

To Find Your Soulmate Ask Yourself:

  • Do my past relationships trigger a strong emotional response?
  • Am I still emotionally connected to any of my exes?
  • Am I ready to let go of this emotional baggage and move on with my life?

Where can you go to find your soulmate?

Now that you know what you want, who you want and you’re ready to look for him, you need to make a plan. For you to attract your soul mate you have to know where to find him.

Decide what route you want to take it is dating sites, a matchmaker, dating events, offline dating services, blind dates or just go out and meet men. Whatever you decide to do, you need to make sure you’ll do it. Dating online world for many people. However, if you and join Match.com or eHarmony and then you never log on, you’ll never meet your soul mate.

The best way to attract your soul mate is to get out, join an online dating site, join clubs or meetups for topics you’re interested in, go to events, meet people, let people set you up on dates. Try everything and see which one works for you.

To Find Your Soulmate Ask Yourself:

  • Do I know at least 5 ways to meet single men while trying to find my soulmate?
  • Am I prepared to leave my comfort zone in order to meet people?
  • Am I ready to try new ways of dating knowing that some won’t work out?

Remember, it’s all about being at your best. Be confident. Don’t lose yourself in the search. A confident woman exudes an energy that says “I will find my soulmate” and that positive attitude attracts men.

The more you go through these actions the more confidence you’ll have in your ability to attract him, when you find your soulmate. That will make it hard for him to ignore you. At that point you won’t need to ask how to find your soulmate, because he’ll be the one chasing you.

Are you trying to find your soulmate? Share your story.

 

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