Filed Under (Before You Date) by Guest Author on 31-08-2010
By Dr. Raymond Comeau
“A man who is master of himself can end a sorrow as easily as he can invent a pleasure. I don’t want to be at the mercy of my emotions. I want to use them, to enjoy them, and to dominate them.” – Oscar Wilde
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We are both our greatest friend and worst enemy. We are the creator of most of our joys and the source of most our pains. We are the first to auto-criticize and believe that we are near paragons of virtue. We don’t like to be left in our own company yet secretly believe that we are one of the most interesting person that we know.
In one word, we are walking talking paradoxes. We can’t see the incongruity of our personal beliefs, especially the beliefs that we have about ourselves. We believe that we know who we are yet we are constantly in search of our identity. All that is what makes it so difficult to accept and love ourselves.
Self-acceptance and self-love has been called the ultimate seduction. So called because it is the hardest and most difficult of all seductions. How can a best friend who also happens to be the worst enemy can ever find acceptance and love? Read the rest of this entry »
In a recent interview with First Date Coach Cathy Bishop we discussed the secrets to always having a great first date. Here’s a short clip from that call.
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The one thing that she said was the most important thing to do is to get excited. I don’t know about you but when I first started dating again, getting excited was the last thing I did before a first date. I was nervous. I was worried. I thought about everything that could go wrong. I thought about everything I thought was wrong with me and what I “knew” would be wrong with him. Needless to say with all of those thoughts going through my head it was pretty hard to get excited.
So, how did I get over it. Simple. I started going out more. The more first dates I went on, the easier it was to get excited. I went out with men that I really wanted to get to know better and some that I really didn’t think were my type. But I went out. Sometimes just getting out there and getting your feet wet is all you need to get over the fear and apprehension you may have about dating. The more you date the better you’ll feel about it and you’ll be more relaxed. The more relaxed you are the easier it will be to get excited. Every new date brings with it the opportunity for new adventures and possibilities, if you’re open to them. Be open, be happy and have fun.
So why else do you need to get excited? In my interview with Cathy she talked more about getting Read the rest of this entry »
Filed Under (Dating) by Shana on 25-08-2010
Today I read an article on Huffington Post “Why Couples Are Staying Un-Divorced”. It made me think of my personal dating strategy. I don’t date people who are separated. To me being separated can mean you haven’t made up your mind yet or that you haven’t moved past that relationship. Not that I haven’t dated someone who was in the process of a divorce, but I would personally need to know he is in the process of getting a divorce. I want the people I date to be open to the possibility of marriage to me or some kind of commitment and would not personally be comfortable dating someone who, even if only on paper, is still married to someone else. I want the men I date to be available and as long as he’s married as far as I’m concerned he’s not. But like I said that’s how I feel about it, my opinion.
In the article they cited financial reasons and the economy as having a role in this trend. But to me Read the rest of this entry »
Filed Under (Before You Date) by Shana on 19-08-2010
“Every person, all the events of your life are there because you have drawn them there. What you choose to do with them is up to you.”
-Richard Bach
How do you know if you’re ready for a relationship? Being ready to date is not the same things as being ready for a serious relationship. But since dating can lead to finding someone special you need to think about how ready you are for that commitment.
Here are 5 signs that show you may need to wait before you begin a new relationship:
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Filed Under (Before You Date) by Guest Author on 13-08-2010
By Louise Kaelin
For most of us, when we think of finding love, we think of finding a person who will love us, and then we plan to love them back. Unfortunately, in real life it seldom works that way. This is partly because neither party is willing to risk rejection, so no one is willing to be the first to send out love.
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There is a way around this, however. The best way to attract love into your life is for you to become more lovable! This advice works well whether you are looking to improve an existing relationship, including with family members, or seeking to become involved in a loving, committed relationship.
Here are ideas for you to become more lovable. Read the rest of this entry »
